Quiet the Mind, Soothe the Soul

Quiet the Mind, Soothe the Soul

In a society that values noise, sells us devices for constant connection, and honors the title “busy”, I struggled with silence. From the time I was first living on my own I felt the need for continuous stimulation. It made me feel better to have something on all of the time. I’d have a show playing as I folded laundry or made dinner and played happy music while I bathed or drove. Time alone with my thoughts was avoided at all costs as I packed my days outside of classes and my work schedule with social gatherings and events. After years of distracting myself from solitude, finally the question was considered… why did I feel such a strong inclination to do so?

If I was never alone with my own thoughts I didn’t have to feel so deeply. The overwhelming emotions of the extreme highs and lows that came along with being a highly intuitive empathic individual who didn’t fully understand her gifts was simply TOO MUCH. By distracting myself with the storylines of predictable shows, music, or continuous communication with friends and family, I was handling the overwhelm of emotion the only way I knew how. Connecting with my inner self at the time was a confusing endeavor as I repressed the emotions I did not yet have the tools to understand and work through. 

The voice of our mind is hard to quiet and is sometimes even confused with our inner self or intuition. As Michael Singer wisely said in his book, The Untethered Soul, “There is nothing more important to true growth than realizing you are not the voice of the mind- you are the one who hears it.” Let’s repeat that one out loud, perhaps jot it down a few times in your journal, and really let it soak in. 

“You are not the voice of the mind- you are the one who hears it.”

-Michael Singer, The Untethered Soul

  By practicing regular mindful stillness you train yourself to separate from the noise… the noise around you and the noise within you distracting from your connection with your higher self, who is completely in tune with your inner empath. Many (like my younger self) have preconceived notions of what meditation looks like and how to do so successfully. While calming instrumental music and candles or incense may be helpful, they are most certainly not required. All you need is a peaceful environment, a small amount of time, and dedication. As a busy Mom, I’ve personally come to relish my meditation time in the peace and quiet of the early morning. Though building this habit takes consistent effort, once you’ve established it within your schedule it is hard to turn back. I’ve found myself feeling more rested, centered, and ready for the day than if I’d slept the extra hour I “sacrificed” for meditation, gentle yoga, herbal tea and journaling.

Often, as empaths, it is not our physical bodies that are too tired. Our minds are exhausted from continuously working to process the bombardment of information we are receiving not only from ourselves, but from everyone around us. Allowing our body to be still provides it with time to complete the necessary rest and repair cycle, but quieting our mind allows us to heal on a deep level. By softening our mind we are able to gently observe the thoughts and emotions that rise to the surface, inquiring within (without judgement) the reason for their presence. If we never take the time to sit with our emotions and truly allow ourselves time to feel them, we are unable to take the next step to identify or heal the root cause of them.

Develop a new habit this week of dedicating 10-20 minutes (or more) to quieting your mind and allowing your intuition to speak uninterrupted. Then sit back in amazement as you’re led down a path filled with greater peacefulness and joy!

Fire Meditation

bonfire surrounded with green grass field

Fire Meditation

Have you ever spent time gazing at a fire, allowing its flickering warmth to relax you? The beauty of flame can be quite mesmerizing, allowing us to easily reach a deep state of meditation with ease. There are many different ways to utilize fire in your meditation practice, but this is one of my favorites, as it never fails to leave me feeling more relaxed and uplifted.

Whether using a large campfire or the simple flame of a small candle, this meditation invites you to heal and align your third chakra, your Manipura or Solar Plexus/Navel chakra. When this chakra is misaligned you may experience feelings of powerlessness or neediness, a desperate desire for control, or struggles with self-expression. Physically you may notice digestive issues when this chakra needs a little extra love.

Seated comfortably (perhaps in lotus or half lotus pose) with your spine stretched tall and chin held high, focus for a moment on deepening your breath. Allowing it to become slower and more steady, inhaling through the nose and exhaling through the mouth at a relaxed and cohesive pace. Let your gaze soften as you observe the flame in front of you.

You may do so literally or through visualization, but either way take a few minutes to write down the feelings, events, or experiences you’d like to release emotional or energetic attachment to. As you burn each one, give them gratitude for the lessons they’ve taught you and the growth prompted by them. Then as it burns, envision your anxious thoughts, feelings or insecurity or inadequacy, or need to control any given situation peacefully rising up in smoke… no longer attached to your energetic body and freed from your mind’s fixation.

Then, after releasing, focus your attention on the base of the flame, noticing any differences in color. Breathing even more deeply, allow the warmth and vibrancy of the fire to be felt deep within your abdomen. Visualize the characteristics, ideas, people, and thoughts that you with to call into your life igniting within. Just as the fire burns in front of you, feel its warmth tingling inside of you as well. Allow it to illuminate the shadowy areas of your heart, inviting them to heal and grow.

Fire meditation mantras:

  • I am safe and secure.
  • I am free to express myself as I am guided to by my intuition.
  • I am powerful and provide benefit to the world around me through sharing the gifts and abilities I’ve been given.
  • I hold the tools within myself to create the life I desire.
  • I am divinely supported.

Repeat these out loud to conclude your meditation, and repeat as often as you feel called to. Have you felt the soothing benefits of a fire meditation? Let’s hear your experience below!